10 Things To Say Instead of "Get it together!"
Helpful statements to support not shame those who struggle with organization.
When you're organized you take for granted the fact that you can keep things in order, find your stuff, and get places on time. Many times people who have it together look at those who don't and somehow see them as lacking or less than.
Responses I've heard when I tell people what I do for a living have included;
"People pay you for that?!"
"Doesn't everyone know how to organize?"
"How hard can it be to label things?"
For someone who is struggling with disorganization I offer these 10 things to say to them instead of looking down on them:
It's okay to feel scattered.
It's really hard, isn't it?
I'm here for you.
Tell me what's going on.
I feel you.
I can help you work it out if you need.
I'm listening.
Take some space for you.
It must feel overwhelming.
I'll stay nearby so you can reach out when you're ready.
Being organized is not an innate skill, but it can be learned. Have patience with those who are struggling on this front. Goodness knows we all have challenges. Showing kindness and compassion is always more helpful than shaming.
What would you add to the list?