5 Ways Clutter Hurts Our Relationships
Clutter can hamper our connection with loved ones.
We all know how clutter can negatively impact our mental health, hamper our productivity and, cost us time and money, but did you know it can also ruin relationships with others?
Here are five ways clutter hurts our relationships:
1. Clutter drains energy meant to go towards making connections
The saying goes: "Clutter is nothing more than postponed decisions." We think our stuff doesn't affect us but in reality, our brains are constantly being signaled that something needs our attention and therefore our full attention can never be devoted to the one we love.
2. Clutter creates obstacles to intimacy
As I've noted in this post: Uncluttered Bedrooms Mean More Romance, a messy boudoir is a big turn-off. If you're tripping over stuff to get to get into the bedroom, have to push aside piles of laundry to lay on the bed, and are staring at piles of clutter on the dresser, these things don't exactly set the mood.
3. Clutter causes tension and conflict
With clutter piles building higher it's only a matter of time that tempers will rise too. This can further lead to issues of shame and blame.
4. Clutter can lead to lying behavior
Many times the "Collector" has issues with excessive amounts of stuff that they may begin hiding or mounting credit card debt that they push under the rug. This deception can undercut the foundation of the relationship and the lying can easily create a wedge in a marriage.
5. Clutter can be a physical barrier to connection
Too much stuff can literally feel like a wall that keeps people out. The non-collecting partner may start to feel that the stuff is more important than they are. In addition, outside social contact can also be impacted as you're not having company over or hosting family gatherings anymore.
If you find that your clutter is starting to negatively impact your relationship, it's time to address it. Involving a professional organizer or therapist can help.
For the self-help types I'd recommend these books:
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret To Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman
Digging Out: Helping Your Loved One Manage Clutter, Hoarding, and Compulsive Acquiring by Michael Tompkins and Tamara Hartl
More Time For Sex: The Organizing Guide For Busy Couples by Harrier Schechter and Vicki Gibbs
Share this with someone who's struggling with a strained relationship on account of clutter.