Let's celebrate Get Organized (GO) Month by ridding ourselves of mental clutter from A to Z!
To celebrate Get Organized (GO) Month I'm doing a series of posts on the mental clutter that can be just as pervasive as physical clutter. For each letter, I'll talk about a mental stumbling block that often impacts our well-being.
Let's focus on L ... Labels
Let's be real, we label people all the time. It helps to put them in a box and compartmentalize them.
Yet the fact that we label people ends up limiting our curiosity about them and getting to know them better. I hear it all the time when I tell people I work with those who struggle with hoarding. The first thing out of someone's mouth usually is a label such as those people are so lazy, messy, hopeless, dirty, etc.
But we need to stop and remember that yes, we do this to others AND that they do it to us! Sucks, right?!
What a label does is that it draws a line in the sand conveying something that's absolute whether it's right or wrong and it doesn't allow for growth or potential.
When we slap a label on ourselves or others (think disorganized, sloppy, all over the place, quitter, ) an assumption takes root that you or those around you can't do certain things. It's like going from: "I struggle with organization" to "I'm always disorganized" to "I am a hopeless, hot mess!" You start denying yourself and others the privilege of the power of possibility and change.
Ways to combat labeling include:
Ask what are we communicating about ourselves when we label someone else?
When someone labels us ask if it's true
Remind yourself that you aren't defined by one circumstance alone (So I forgot my notes for the meeting, that doesn't mean that I'm always disorganized.)
Embrace that your authentic self is comprised of facets that contradict and complement each other in a unique and beautiful way
Labels are subjective, oversimplified, and inflexible and people are very much NOT
Remember that labeling yourself is not only self-defeating, but it also's self-bullying and you deserve better than that
"Labels are for filing. Labels are for clothing.
Labels are not for people."
Here's to freeing ourselves from the mental clutter of labels!
Please share with someone who needs a clearer mindset.
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